“Time Keeps Slippin’, Slippin….”

Somehow I thought when I retired I would be writing more, at least that was one of my goals. Instead, in my first semester of retirement,  I taught just about half-time as a substitute for my old district, and I started doing more as a pastoral minister for my church. People often mention to me about ‘all the time you have now’, and not always kindly.

It took me the first semester to truly separate myself from my old job. Substituting so much was part of it, and I appreciate the trust and the money that goes with being a sub, but I often felt like a retired ranch owner who had sold out only to go back to work as a hired hand on the old place. It just wasn’t the same, nor should it be.

Now I have achieved some emotional separation and one reason is the Camino de Santiago de Compostela. I have written about it before, but in a strange twist of fate, being ‘retired’ earned me more money than I would have made had I stayed fully employed by the same district. People have been driven near crazy with my focus on the pilgrimage: some have been supportive, some just think I am crazy. It is fair to say I have been a little obsessive at the thought I might really live it rather than dream it. I have saved enough money that I bought tickets, and made arrangements, and upped the daily walking mileage, but who was it that said “Man proposes, God disposes”?

A couple of days ago a test showed I might have a serious medical condition. I have received a ‘false positive’ on the same test before, but it is one that can’t be ignored. While various bureaucracies have fought for several days about scheduling and paying for the test, I have pondered about losing my trip, and losing my life. Of course, being a normal human being, losing the trip seems much more likely, and yet the other is inevitable, sooner or later.

Somehow since I retired time moves faster, not slower for me. I am conscious of the fact that I have ‘more yesterdays than tomorrows’ in a way that is much more real to me than it used to be. This is not to say that I am morbid about my life, quite the contrary! I am just very determined to use my time wisely.

I have done all that I can for my family in terms of financial security. I think I have done all that I can to get my children launched into life, and then to not interfere, too much, in how they choose to live. I have made whatever impact I can as a teacher; for good or ill that time is past. I think I provide a service as a pastoral minister, but the parish would survive quite nicely if I did not do what I do. So what to do with my time? Not so much ‘what I want to” as much ‘what I need to’, and I need to go to Spain.

The Camino will take me about 33 days of walking. Counting travel time I may be gone for six weeks. I am not sure why it is so important to me to go, but I know it is important, and if I can get on the plane in 36 days I will. I do not feel the least bit guilty about asking for six weeks out of 57-plus years to do something that is important to me. I feel time is “slippin” and I need to go.OLYMPUS DIGITAL CAMERA


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Of Boxes and Labels….

One of my favorite things to tell people who do not know me is about how I named myself, and it is a true story.

My mother married and had me before her 19th birthday; she was divorced a few months later. I never knew my biological father. I did not see him again until I was nineteen, and  just once.  My mother remarried and I always went by the name of my stepfather until I reached junior high age and for some reason, I think to do with the government, I needed to start using my ‘legal name’, a name I had never used or gone by.

My mother is a woman of many issues, and she badgered my stepfather into adopting me. I think it was more important to her than me. We met with a lawyer who tried to joke with me and I asked if I wanted to change “anything else” and I said “let’s change all my names.” He was shocked but my father said ‘it’s his name’ and so I changed my label from “Eddy C. Freeborn” to “Edward Charles Montgomery.” Although someone once unkindly said “you are not a blood Montgomery”, that name has been one of my labels ever since, and perhaps explains why I do not like to be called “Eddie”,  as some people try to do.

Since then I have had many labels. I was a football player, a basketball player, a player cut from basketball (twice), a midshipman, a Marine officer, a teacher, a husband, a father, a school administrator, a teacher again, a retired teacher, a substitute teacher, a lay minister, and on and on and on.

What all these labels have in common is cultural expectations. They allow people to put you into a box with stereotypes such as “all Marines….”, or “every teacher I know”, and I have never been comfortable with such easy dismissal. I tried very hard, for a very long time, to fit into those boxes because I thought I was supposed to; I thought it would make my life better. At the same time, I hated being labeled with a passion. It always seemed to me that once labeled, it made it much easier to ignore the individuality, the uniqueness, that makes people so interesting. I was often amused by my students who loudly proclaimed ” I am an individual and I don’t care what other people think!” while they were busy climbing into boxes and accepting labels. There is great cultural pressure to conform and fit in, especially in American schools.

Recently, I began a training program to help ‘lay leaders’ to be more effective team members for the parishes they belong to, and to work more effectively in their ministries. I see this training as a sign that lay ministry might be in the process of being acknowledged and respected so I wanted to be part of it, but therein lies the rub. The first thing they had us do was a ‘personality sorter’ which people seem to love. I think they love these “sorters” so much because they are often used to box-in people by surrounding them with a label and expectations.

Early in my ministry studies I had done another sorter and was given another label, “INFJ” which is the rarest personality type in the world according to this sorter. I accepted the label because I thought it accurately described me, but also because it helped me to understand why I always felt different: I was. I came to terms with the fact that I would probably never be ‘one of the boys’ and that there was nothing wrong with being ‘different’. I think it was the only label I ever thought fit me very well.

The most recent sorter uses a different label. According to a long executive summary I am a “Cs” but the world sees me as an “Sc”. The words used to describe me in the summary were harsh, and they upset me. I was not the only ‘trainee’ who was bothered. I had trouble accepting that upsetting large numbers of people with these ‘executive summaries’ was a useful way to begin team building. I realized that this summary accurately described ‘how’ I worked in certain ways, but not “why” I worked in those ways. It was as far off base as it could get.

I was supposed to discuss this summary with my pastor which presented problems. My newly retired pastor had not wanted to send anyone to the training, and I did not know the new pastor. He is from India, and a Salesian, so I worried that  his insights might be different from a pastor born and raised in my remote and rural diocese, plus, we had never worked together. What to do was a puzzlement to me.

My new pastor started working in the parish after a sudden trip to India when his mother died. We finally had a talk and he told me that, although he had done the same training, he did not put a lot of faith in the labels produced by the DISC analysis. He said it was more important to spend time with people and to learn about them by caring for them, and “looking at their hearts.” He told me to continue the training but to trust in “the Spirit you have come to know” and the other training I have had. He indicated that no amount of training would replace “loving one another enough to listen to each other.”

I kept those words in mind when I did the next lesson on-line. That lesson consisted of watching short video clips of people and using subjective criteria to label them. Instant feedback was provided as to the accuracy of the label I came up with to describe each person. I doubt that I would have accepted such training, but my pastor’s words helped me a great deal. I hope I never “learn” to “label” people in 30 seconds and to base my working relationships on those labels.

I recently saw a t-shirt that said, “Knowledge speaks, wisdom listens.” I hope I have the wisdom to listen when I go back to the training which continues for another year. I assume there is knowledge that is worth learning in the program. I also hope I have the wisdom to balance that knowledge with the wisdom of my new pastor.

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“Sidney Carton Meet Hilary Mantel….”

Last spring my former employer, a certain school district found a new and different way to make itself worse. For reasons I can only attribute to a deadly mixture of pride and stupidity, my district found itself on the edge of financial collapse, and a charming custom called a “RIF” came out of the closet. A “RIF” (reduction in force) is a process in which a district is made weaker because teachers are eliminated that should not really be eliminated while other positions of dubious value are saved. The process is done by rules that seem reasonable until manipulated by the same incompetent people who caused the problems that necessitated the reduction. There is truth in the dictum that “the fish rots from the head”. Sadly, expecting professionalism, competence, and compassion in a crisis from those who do not demonstrate it in calmer times is a sure route to disappointment.

In a very depressed state of mind my last post described how I had lost hope that I could make much of a difference. But I found a way to make a difference at last: I left.

Sidney Carton is described as ‘brilliant, and self-pitying’, and I have been described as half of that. It was said of Carton that the most impressive thing he did in his life was in how he left it. Perhaps the same could be said of how I left my professional life.

Early on, I spoke to the wife. (The fact that she is my wife is proof that “God is in all things” as my Jesuit teacher would insist.)  We determined that we could, if necessary, live on one salary. In fact, we remembered that we had for many years and we seemed to have survived. I decided that I would resign my job in order to save those of younger, better teachers who were building families and buying houses; those who made our district and community a better place. In the long run, some teachers were offered buyouts if they would ‘retire’ early. The powers-that-be offered me a buyout although I could not claim my pension for another year. I took the buyout anyway. Most people think I walked away with a nice ‘golden parachute’ but in truth the buyout represents a reduced salary spread out over the months until I can claim my retirement. I wavered at one point but I was told that my ‘retirement’ was saving the jobs of 1-2 teachers and, later, I was indiscreetly told the name of one I had ‘saved’.

By coincidence, I was reading “Bring Up the Bodies” during this time, and i was struck by the similarities between Tudor England, and a certain school district. Hilary Mantel has written brilliantly of the political machinations of Thomas Cromwell and her next volume will describe how his ‘politically expedient’ approach resulted in his own demise for the same reasons he dispatched others. In this case, the superintendent left our district and a much larger paycheck. A teacher with two graduate degrees in social studies is teaching remedial reading. A math teacher, art teacher and elementary counselor left in search of greener pastures. One of them expressed the opinion that she could no longer live with how “we do things here” and that she did not want her children going to school here. Several people were emotionally blackmailed into retirement, including the only endorsed librarian.  We have continued a tradition of hiring unqualified people in the absence of qualified applicants.  A Pyrrhic financial victory at best.

Nevertheless, none of the best young teachers in my areas left, and that is a victory.

And so, I am ‘retired’, and the best thing I did for my district might have been leaving it. A young teacher, or two, might be at school today, the first of the year, who would have been gone. Perhaps they are making a difference I could not, or did not.

My family all told me ‘you should write more’ although I suspect all of them could write much better than me. I deliberately held off writing because I knew I would not feel ‘retired’ until the first day of school. I sat down today with a different essay in mind, but my fingers protested and wrote this ‘final vent’ instead. As years go by experience has taught me I will develop a more balanced view of my teaching career. It took many years for me to find similar balance in looking back at the Marine Corps, fatherhood, and other important things that occurred in my life, so I can let this particular past ‘go’ easier than when I was younger.

I am a person who is not too sure of much in life, but I am sure that every day I taught, I cared. I am sure I did the best I could to make life better for my students, (who danced with me on my last day),  and my colleagues. Through my work on regional and state levels, I worked very hard to improve education for all students in the state, and that work was valued and respected. I will leave the determination of my successes and failures to the judgment of others. I am certain that retiring was a ‘far, far better thing’ to do, and that knowledge gives me a peace and certainty of ‘rightness’ I never knew while working as a teacher.

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Shaky Faith….

A poet friend of mine once told me “I cannot write a good poem when I am happy”, and I understood. I am most compelled to write when I am depressed, concerned, worried, paranoid, hurt, angry, pick any word you want, but not often “happy”. The blog entries I have written here over the past few years are proof.

I have noticed a recurring theme in my entries. I often match a belief in the importance of trying to do good and right in the world with doubt that it makes any difference in my own life. I absolutely believe that good people can do great things, but I often doubt that I am a good person. I doubt because I see more evidence in the world that I am not going good, and less of the opposite. And yet, isn’t faith supposed to be believing without seeing? “Proof” negates “faith”.

As I near the end of my teaching career, I seem to care more, and accomplish less. If I were my boss I would be wondering why a subordinate of mine always seems to be in the midst of controversy, and why that employee seems to spend a lot of time explaining why good intentions go bad. If the road to hell is paved with good intentions, I have laid down more than a few stones.

I know I believe in much less than I did 10 years or so ago. Unlike the early days of school reform, I do not believe that my school district can make itself better.  I do not believe that public education in this country can reform itself. I know why I believe this, and it goes back to ‘proof’. I have no experiential knowledge of it happening. I do not believe I will live to see it happen because people only offer simple solutions to complex problems, and the roots of the dysfunction in my local system, and the national system, lie in deep cultural problems we cannot, or will not address.

American exceptionalism? After a decade in which our government has a lower favorability rating than colonoscopies? After my country decided it was appropriate to invade other countries, to take away the rights of American citizens and to torture non-citizens? My country may be measurably better than others in some respects, but it is also measurably worse in others. The only thing we do exceptionally well is to defend guns and slaughter school children. No, I do not believe in American exceptionalism.

I have no faith in my church as an institution. After the child abuse scandal and the ongoing stupidities of Roman Catholic church politics, I doubt the sanity of anyone who still believes in an institution whose actions can only be seen as the actions of an organization hell-bent on destroying itself. I have no faith in the Church’s ability to reform itself.

Despite the fact that I work with outstanding people, I think that anyone of them could and would be ‘thrown under the bus’ if politically expedient. That says something about moral leadership, but I think the same is true in any organization, educational, religious, governmental, or business. We are nothing special here in that respect, not worse, but not better. Or so I believe. I do not believe in my community, and I do not believe in the parents of the students I teach. This does not mean I think everything is universally bad, but I do think that the odds are stacked against those trying to make a better world.

The last thing I had faith was my students. I believed that if they received enough help, early enough, that despite their backgrounds, problems, tragedies, triumphs, they would be the ones with a fighting chance to make a better world. I believed in their generations much more than my own. I believed that if I cared enough, I could help them despite my many flaws. I have had some evidence that this was true. Now evidence is accumulating that I do more damage than good.

I am not sure I believe in my students’ chances, or abilities, to make better lives for themselves or others anymore. I still hope with the right kind of guidance they can. I am sure however, that my time, if I had a time, has come and gone. I do not believe that I make a difference, and I do not think I can, not anymore.

And yet…….still…..I believe it is important to try…….I believe a difference can be made.

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The Road Not Taken….

A friend of mine told me once that he was ‘hopeful’, but not ‘optimistic’. I’m afraid I did not quite understand the difference. It may be that I am unable to take the long view and ‘hope’ that things will turn out better after my life has ended. I have a hard time imagining the future, but now and then I get a glimpse of what my ‘future’ could have been.

I had a reunion with my squadron mates from HMM-261 last spring. Of the officers in the squadron, I probably had the shortest military career of any. Many of my friends stayed in the closed, somewhat claustrophobic society known as the Marine officer corps  for twenty years or more. They traveled a path I did not.

Instead I traveled a path that found me teaching first on an Indian reservation, and  then in two small towns. Instead of joining the military/industrial complex upon retiring from the Corps like my friends, I joined the Franciscans. Instead of getting a master’s degree in some sort of industrial jargon, I got a master’s degree in ministry. Rather than being a cog in the military/industrial machine, I seem to walk alone through the profession I have chosen.

My squadron mates are still my friends, and we can have a good time together. Many of them added me to their mailing lists after the reunion and there I discovered how much our paths have diverged. My friends, at least many of them, are angry white men. Some of them subscribe very seriously to conspiracy theories that would make Robert Ludlum blush. They hate the president, poor people, ‘liberals’, Democrats, Moslems, etc. and sometimes, even Republicans are too liberal for them. I could be described as an ‘angry, white man’ too. I think the difference is in what we are angry about.

I am not saying my friends are ‘wrong’; although I mostly think they are. I do not think they are ‘bad’ men, but they have lived in a very small world despite their degrees, titles, important jobs, etc. At least their world seems small to me.

But then, they would think my world is much smaller than theirs. I am an aging, small town teacher known mostly for an irascible temper and inability to ‘make nice’ with people I consider to be idiots: I don’t suffer fools gladly. I would have been a total failure had I followed the path chosen by many of my friends, and they know it,  but then, I am not especially successful  on the path I chose. I have anger, anger I must come to terms with sooner or later, anger that I have not done the good in the world I wanted to do. Still, trying to do some good in the world, despite all the limitations and obstacles that are part of me, or created by me, is not something I think of as a wrongly chosen path. I am sure my friends do ‘good’ in the world, just not the ‘good’ I would choose.

I think, all in all. I made a good decision in my ‘road less traveled’. If I have gone through life stumbling, at least I have been stumbling down a better path for me. No startling conclusions, no profound wisdom here. Perhaps just the knowledge that the ‘future’ I had 30 years ago was a better one for me than one I might have foreseen. Maybe the path we choose is more important than how successful we are in walking it, maybe…

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There Is A River….


Sunset on the river…

Rivers have always been a powerful symbol for me. This is a bit strange because I have lived near mountains, and oceans, but I have never lived near a mighty river. Perhaps not living near a river has let me see them more as symbols easier than if I had to face them each day as reality. Still, the Mississippi is a powerful river I deal with each year as I teach American Literature. My favorite rook to teach, read, and simply savor, is A River Runs Through It, and I, like Norman Mclean, am haunted not only by rivers, but waters. When I was in graduate school almost 20 years ago the local high school chorus sang a song that so moved me I included it into a paper I was writing on Mclean’s book.

Oftentimes I dream of music, of a river that freely flows….

I have had many dreams, and I still have dreams. I reflect that I am truly blessed in that I have never been without a job, a home, or food. In my river of life, I dreamed of being a military pilot, and so I was. Rivers do not stand still, and so later, I yearned to be a classroom teacher sharing my favorite subjects of literature and history with future generations, and this too was granted to me. To push the metaphor a bit, I took a shore excursion during my years as an administrator, but that too was a dream to make a difference on a bigger scale and I think, I hope, somehow I might have done for other schools what I was unable to do for mine.

And it sings a song sweeter than honey, one everybody knows….

There have been times I have been too focused on my dreams, I can be more than a little obsessive/compulsive when I decide to do something. Perhaps a much greater blessing than achieving what I dreamed of is that they never came easy, or in the ways I envisioned, and the path was humbling in so many ways that helped curbed tendencies towards arrogance or pride. Then I came to middle age. Middle age is a time to take stock of the past, and to look ahead. And I remembered a dream I had forgotten, or misinterpreted.

Late at night I hear it singing…..

Long ago I dreamed of serving, somehow serving, and I dreamed of it in religious terms. I explored the dream enough to find and join a church, but then I channeled my need to serve into a career as a helicopter pilot, and later, a teacher. These were worthy dreams, I think I served honorably in those activities, but there was still a call I was ignoring that wouldn’t let me go. And so I started dreaming another dream, the most quixotic dream I had ever dared. I wanted to minister in a church that consider only single, ordained men, to be ‘real’ ministers. I have written much about this portion of my ‘river of life’ in this blog, including my belief that my dream of serving my local community would not happen. As I said earlier, none of my dreams have happened as I envisioned.

And it fills me up with hope and good will, the will to go on….

I have accomplished my dream of completing a master’s degree in ministry. I have been commissioned a minister by my bishop, but it seemed that I would not ever ‘minister’ as I envisioned ‘ministry’. Recently, and suddenly, I have been asked to do the pastoral ministry locally that I had been told was impossible. I am grateful that I was grateful instead of having an ‘it’s about time’ attitude. It indicated to move that I had moved a little farther along the river, and it had given me time to realize something more important, something I knew long ago.

There is a river in Judea….that my soul cries out to know….

What I am coming to know is that I am called to ‘be’ more than I am called to ‘do’. In the past I confused the two, and it bothered me that I could no longer ‘do’ as in being a Marine, or teacher. I did not understand that those roles gave me a place to ‘be’ whatever it is I am called to be, and my faith is very clear on what I am called to be. As I begin closing my teaching career, and as I begin to do whatever ministry I do, I need to focus on ‘being’ more than ‘doing’. I need to be a good man by listening, caring, taking time to visit a brother, or help a niece select a course in college. I think I am a flawed, but good man. I also think that has sometimes been lost in the action of working to make dreams come true. I can’t fly anymore, and I can’t teach the way I want to, but I can be a man of ‘ hope and good will’ for my family, friends, and those in life I encounter.

I believe it keeps on traveling, but it rests…the time it pauses I almost hear it pray….

I dream a new dream, one of being the best person I can be, and having that be my focus. With my personality that is a significant challenge, but it is always what I have been called to be, and I have gotten that confused with ‘doing’ for many years. And so this year as I look at teaching, or being a father, husband, uncle, brother, friend, or even minister I am going to try very hard to concentrate more on ‘being a good person’ than ‘doing good things’. I suspect that is the song I heard many years ago, the song sung at a river 2,000 years ago.

There is a river in Judea…..




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Been Away for Awhile…..

I miss writing. I miss writing a lot. Finishing a wretched school year, completing an internship in pastoral ministry, working a retreat for the fifth year in a row, going to Europe, working for two weeks in Lincoln, and now taking care of my wife and grandchild have kept me busy. It’s a good busy, but I still miss writing. Perhaps in a week or so things will slow down and I will have something I need to say. Perhaps….

One off the ‘bucket list’….


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